You Don’t Cross a Threshold by Deciding — You Cross It by Staying Open
We’re taught that change happens through decision. That if we think long enough, analyze deeply enough, or gather enough information, clarity will arrive — and then movement will follow. But that’s not how thresholds work.
Thresholds are not crossed because the mind decides. They’re crossed because the heart stays open. And that distinction changes everything.
Why the mind wants certainty before movement
The mind is designed to keep us safe by predicting outcomes. It asks:
What if this doesn’t work?
What if I regret it?
What if I lose something important?
So when you’re standing in a threshold — when something has ended internally and the next step hasn’t fully revealed itself — the mind looks for certainty. A plan. A guarantee. A clear explanation.
But thresholds don’t offer certainty upfront. They offer truth. And truth often arrives first as a felt sense — not a conclusion.
What openness actually looks like
Staying open doesn’t mean being passive. It doesn’t mean saying yes to everything or floating without boundaries. Openness, in the context of a threshold, looks like:
allowing yourself to feel what’s ending
staying present with discomfort instead of rushing to resolve it
listening to the body’s signals without immediately overriding them
letting truth exist before you explain it
This kind of openness takes courage. Not dramatic courage — but honest courage. The kind that says:
I’m willing to stay with what’s real, even before I know what comes next.
Why decisions often feel forced at thresholds
Many people try to “decide their way out” of a threshold. They pressure themselves to:
make a clean break
commit to a next step
figure out the future quickly
And when that doesn’t work, they assume they’re stuck or failing. But often, the discomfort isn’t because they can’t decide. It’s because they’re trying to decide too early. The decision isn’t ripe yet — because the crossing is still happening internally.
The body crosses before the mind understands
One of the clearest signs that openness is doing its work is that the body begins to reorganize. You might notice:
a softening around something that once felt rigid
a clearer physical yes or no
a release of tension you didn’t know you were holding
a sense of inevitability rather than urgency
This is the crossing. Not a single moment — but a gradual alignment. The decision that eventually comes feels less like a leap and more like an exhale.
Staying open allows the next step to reveal itself
When you stay open:
conversations arise naturally
boundaries clarify themselves
opportunities come into focus
timing becomes less strained
Not because you’re manifesting perfectly — but because you’re no longer resisting truth. The path reveals itself in response to openness, not control. This is why thresholds are lived experiences, not mental exercises.
Openness doesn’t eliminate fear — it changes your relationship to it
Fear doesn’t disappear when you stay open. But it stops being the authority.
Instead of asking, How do I get rid of this fear? You begin asking, Can I move with this fear present?
That shift is powerful. Fear becomes information — not a verdict. And movement becomes possible again.
The moment openness turns into movement
There’s a moment — often quiet — when openness does its work. You realize:
you’re no longer arguing with yourself
the old option feels heavy rather than tempting
the next step feels obvious, even if it’s still unknown
That’s when the decision makes itself. Not because you forced it. But because you stayed open long enough for truth to organize your energy.
A ritual to support heart-led crossing
Because openness lives in the body, not the mind, thresholds are best met in embodied ways.
That’s why I created Heart-Led Crossing — a short ritual designed to support moments of transition.
It’s a 10-minute, heart-led journey to help you stay open at the threshold you’re already in, and allow the crossing to unfold with trust rather than pressure. You don’t need to decide. You don’t need to know the outcome. You only need to stay open.
→ Access Heart-Led Crossing here
If you’re waiting for certainty, you may be waiting too long
Certainty often comes after movement — not before. If you’re standing in a threshold right now, consider this:
What if openness is the only requirement?
What if staying with the truth is enough?
What if the crossing is already happening?
You don’t cross thresholds by deciding perfectly. You cross them by staying open — long enough for life to meet you.
