Certain But Not Clear? You’re Standing in Pure Potential

There’s a particular moment many of us find ourselves in — and it can feel disorienting if you don’t recognize it for what it is.

You know something has shifted. Something has ended, or is ending. Something new is calling. And yet… you don’t have the plan. You can’t explain it cleanly. You don’t know the timeline.cYou don’t know how it will unfold. So the mind starts searching. For clarity. For certainty in the right order. For something to grab onto.

But what if nothing is wrong? What if this moment — this exact one — isn’t confusion at all?

What if you’re standing in pure potential?

Certainty Doesn’t Always Come With Clarity

We’re taught, implicitly and explicitly, that clarity should come first. Know the plan. See the path. Understand the “why.” Be able to explain yourself. Only then do we trust what we feel.

But lived experience tells a different story.

Most people I work with aren’t actually lacking clarity — they’re lacking permission to trust what they already know. They’re certain of what no longer fits. Certain of what they’re no longer available for. Certain of what they deeply want — even if they can’t yet articulate it.

That kind of certainty doesn’t arrive with instructions. It arrives in the body. In a quiet knowing. In a visceral yes or no that doesn’t ask for consensus. And because it doesn’t come with a plan, we assume something is missing. So we keep looking.

For answers. For confirmation. For someone else to agree. But what’s missing isn’t clarity.

It’s trust.

The Space Before the “How”

There is a space before things make sense.

Before language. Before strategy. Before the how reveals itself. This space can feel uncomfortable because it’s undefined. Unfamiliar. Alive with possibility. And yet — it’s also where everything new is born. This is not a waiting room. It’s an incubation chamber. A place where something is forming that cannot yet be rushed into shape.

When we demand clarity too soon, we collapse the field of possibility. We narrow what wants to emerge. We trade potential for premature answers.But when we stay — when we allow ourselves to stand here — something else happens. The field expands.

Not Knowing Is Not Empty

Our culture treats not knowing as a problem to solve. But not knowing isn’t empty. It’s charged. It’s the moment before momentum. Before coherence. Before the next right step reveals itself naturally. This is why trying to “figure it out” often feels so exhausting. You’re attempting to force form before the energy has settled. What if, instead, you allowed yourself to be here?

Not to analyze the moment.
Not to justify it.
Not to explain it away.

But to experience it as it is. Alive. Potent. Full of possibility.

Pressure Isn’t the Enemy

I know — not knowing can feel like pressure.

There’s a tightening. An urge to resolve.
A desire to release the discomfort by arriving somewhere, anywhere.

But pressure doesn’t always mean something is wrong. Sometimes it means something is building. If we rush to relieve pressure immediately, we miss the pleasure of the unfolding. The depth. The expansion.

Capacity is built by staying. By letting yourself feel the edge without needing to escape it. And that capacity matters. Because it’s the same capacity required to receive what you’re moving toward.

This Is the Good Part

When people come to me in what they call a “dark night,” I feel something very different. I feel excited!! Not because it’s easy. Not because it isn’t tender. But because I know what it is.

It’s not failure. It’s not collapse. It’s not a mistake. It’s rebirth! It’s pure potential reorganizing itself. It’s the old structures loosening so something more aligned can take shape.

You’re not behind.
You’re not doing it wrong.

You’re early. And early is powerful.

Standing Here Changes Everything

When you stop demanding clarity and start trusting certainty, something shifts. You stop forcing outcomes, narrowing timelines and making yourself wrong for not knowing yet. Instead, you orient. Toward what you know is true, what you are certain of — even without explanation, and toward the direction your body already recognizes.

That orientation is enough.

Clarity will come — not because you chased it, but because you were willing to stay present long enough to receive it.

Let Yourself Stand Here

If you find yourself in this space — certain but not clear — let this be your reassurance:

Nothing is missing.
Nothing is wrong.
Nothing needs to be rushed.

This moment is not asking you to figure it out.

It’s asking you to trust the field you’re standing in.

And if you let it, this space will shape you — build your faith, strengthen your trust, expand your capacity to receive what’s next.

🎧 If this resonated, I explore this orientation more fully in the podcast episode Standing in Pure Potential on Designed for More.